Do You Know A Narcissist?

A narcissist is someone is someone with a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and lack of empathy.

Someone who is a narcissist have a high sense of importance when it comes to themselves. They need to have attention and want people around them to look at them with admiration. They lack feeling into other people’s feelings since they feel like their own feelings are more important. They feel like they have a high power over everyone else.

There are two “main” expressions of narcissism: Grandiose Narcissism and Vulnerable Narcissism.

With Grandiose, there is high self-esteem and a clear sense of uniqueness and superiority. Social potency, marked by exhibitionistic, authoritative, charismatic and self-promoting interpersonal behaviors. Exploitative, self-serving relational dynamics; short-term relationship transactions defined by manipulation and privileging of personal gain over other benefits of socialization.

With Vulnerable, there is low and contingent self-esteem, unstable and unclear sense of self, and resentment of others' success. Social withdrawal, resulting from shame, distrust of others' intentions, and concerns over being accepted. Needy, obsessive relational dynamics; long-term relationship transactions defined by an excessive need for admiration, approval and support, and vengefulness when needs are unmet.

It feels like they always see themselves as the victim. They don’t think they’re the problem, they think its everyone else. They tend to spin the truth, making the people around them think they’re side of the story is the one side. They add details that may not be true causing people to pick sides without knowing the whole truth.

A narcissist is someone who thinks only about themselves and they will make themselves look and feel like the better person since they think they have a higher importance over everyone. They tend to put their needs over your own. They think their always right. They think they can do no wrong.

Signs Of A Narcissist:

• Lacks Empathy

• Grandiose Sense Of Self

• Love Bombing In The Early Stages Of A Relationship

• Feels As Though Everyone Around Them Is Jealous And Envious Of Them

• They Tend To Exaggerate Their Achievements

• Entitled And Believe They Deserve The Best

• Need To Be At The Center Of Attention

• Uses Others To Gain Achievements

• Needs To Be Praised

• Arrogant And Envious Of Others

• Believes The World Is Jealous Of Them

• Disregard For Rules

• Dismissive Of Others' Feelings

• Gaslighting

• Has Dreams Of Being Successful, Wealthy, And Powerful

There is something called the Grey Rock Method. It’s when you do not engage with someone with narcissism and give them little interaction as possible. The less you give them, the less they can use something against you. Its best to not fight or argue with someone who is a narcissist.

There so much that goes on with someone who as narcissism. There is no cure. The only thing that would help is therapy, but even then, are they doing it because they want to or because they have to.

Narcissism is something that doesn’t go away. It’s part of who someone is. They’re never going to change. Why would they? It doesn’t affect or benefit them then why would they put in the work. The best thing you can do is walk away. Don’t add fuel to the fire. If they don’t care, then why should you.