Do You Believe In Second Chances?

Do you think if you went no contact with someone, would you give them a second chance if they were able to prove they respected and valued you as a person?

When I think about who I’ve distanced myself from, I wonder if they know about it. Do they take the time to figure out that I’ve taken them off social media or deleted their number off my phone? Do they think about what they’ve done to make someone cut them out of their life? I wonder if people really change after finding what they’ve done and said to someone, but I don’t know if I would ever go back to having that person back in my life. 

I need to see someone take responsibility for past mistakes, and put in the hard work to do better. I need to see someone to show me that they want me in their life.  If someone says something because it's something I want to hear, but doesn't show that they’ve changed or show any real process then I don’t want anything to do with that person.

I feel if someone cared about me then they would want me to be part of their life, but if you show no interest in having me be there for you then it's time for me to move on. I need to be able to have people in my life that will fight for me, someone who will stand up for me. 

If someone goes weeks, months or even years before they reach out to me and act like nothing has happened or pretend that whatever they did or said never happened, I won’t waste my time listening to what they have to say. You had a chance to make things right, but it took you too long to come to the realization that you are losing people in your life because of your words and your actions. I’m not easy to forgive and forget. 

If you don’t accept me in your life then I won’t accept you in mine. You had a chance to make things right, but you were too selfish to realize that people get hurt by what you do. I don’t want to be a hero in a relationship/friendship by keeping you in my life and hope that you change, but I’ve been hurt by people who I thought cared about me. I’m not important to you so why would you be important to me?