There are rumours and speculations on Matthew Perry’s past about not respecting women and I have some thoughts about the whole thing.
Since his passing, I’ve gained more respect for Matthew and how open and honest he was about his struggles with addiction. He wanted to help people and be remembered for it. In recent news, there’s been speculation that he was emotionally, verbally, and physical abusive towards women, in which I don’t believe that he would do that. It’s also come to believe that he had relapsed and that he was lying about being sober, in which friends who have either saw him on the day he passed or have talked to him via text said that he was in good spirits and was looking forward to the future and getting back to work. He was working on getting back into shape.
The women that he had in his life either as in a relationship or as a friend have come forward and said that he would have these meltdowns or breakdowns and throw things and get physical.
In March of 2022, it was said that Matthew pushed his friend against the wall then proceed to throw her onto the bed causing her to quit her job and move out. A friend that he had known for numerous years.
His ex-fiancée claims he had thrown a coffee table at her when she confronted him about cheating. In 2021, they broke up when she became aware that he was flirting with other women on a dating app causing them to have a fight on Valentines Day. Sources say it was at that time in which she called off the engagement when she found out about that he had gotten another woman a gift. They had met in 2018 and got engaged in 2020. When Matthew proposed, he was high. He didn’t remember doing it, but she accepted it anyway knowing that he wasn’t in his right mind. She knew that he was using. She could have walked away or at least tried to help him. She took advantage of him when he was at his lowest. Why wait a year and half to speak up? What did she have to gain?
The women that have come forward have said that he would get them addicted to drugs like pain killers and that he would use women to get drugs. He would facetime them to get to know them then invite them over and since he wasn’t leaving his house and wasn’t seen in public as much as he used to, it was easy for people to stop by unnoticed or get him things without people noticing.
There’s also been speculation that he would drive high, making him crash his car or get into accidents, but there isn’t any reports of car accidents or damages to his car, especially in paparazzi pictures of him driving the car that was used in said accidents.
It was from my understanding that when Matthew used or was drinking, he always did it alone. He never used when he was with someone. He had mentioned it in his book. When he was on FRIENDS, he never used or drunk while working, but he would show up extremely hungover to the point that he was shaking. The cast was able to smell the alcohol on him making them aware of what was going on.
I believe that if these women claim that these things happened, especially the woman who worked with him for I think it was 8 or 10 years, why didn’t she leave? If you didn’t feel comfortable or it was a toxic work environment, why did it take you that many years to walk away? Why not leave sooner? If you feared for your safety and your life, why did you keep working with him? Why remain friends with him? Why wait until now to say something when you know that Matthew can’t defend himself?
I can understand Matthew relapsing and hiding it from people, but I don’t believe that he would go as far as he did. He worked too hard to get to where he was. He wanted to get sober, and he wanted to get clean. He finally had a second chance at life. It’s not fair to Matthew.
It was obvious that he was also struggling with mental health issues. He was dealing with a lot and trying to do his best in getting the help he needed to overcame whatever struggles he had. There many reasons why he was how he was. The brain is a complicated thing. We are never going to figure out why or how we act a certain way or how some people can overcome addiction and others constantly relapse. We don't know why or how people with similar backgrounds and childhoods can lead different lives. One can battle addiction and depression and another can take their past and make sure it doesn't get repeated, break the cycle.
Even if Matthew wasn't taking care of his mental health in a way he should have doesn't give someone a reason to accuse him of doing something as bad as abuse. He was trying to get better. He knew he needed help and he was working on trying to be a better person. Its people who are saying negative things about him that really need to think about the consequences of saying such things. If you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all. Don't take someone in their worst moments and make it about you.
There are so many people out there who want to use someone’s personal life as a way to get people talking about them. They want to get attention and want to bring someone down when they know they can’t stand up for themselves.
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